We are far so we can be more close like family

When it looks so close at you can reach it, but it’s actually not close as it appears, yet when it looks out of reach but it’s actually very close.

If we talk about the proximity or our relationship with another person, it would be endless. Is it happening because of the proximity or does it happen by itself?

There are people who always say “we are family ” but in fact there was or is not a sense of family. It is usually the one who always says we are a family are the one who makes it seems so redundant.

We are far so we can be more close like family

The smile when you see your family after a long time. This is one of my brothers.

Then on the other hand, there are people who never say anything but the sense of family was strong until we do not want to lose them.

I remember how my brothers and I interacted in our family, there is never a phrase like “I love you” or “You are my family” or “I care about you” but we believe that although we are different in many ways but we are family.

At the time when I was going aboard. At the last-minute as we did not know when I would be back, there was a farewell event, my mom and my brothers are very rarely gathered together for their respective activities, but they came, my older brother came when the event had over just to hug me and for the first time I saw him cry, even my mother shed tears too.

“You should not have to come. It is late-night and the event have finished anyway,” I said to my brother.

“It doesn’t matter if it had finished or not, I came because I want to hug and say goodbye to my little sister,” my brother’s answer almost made me cry.

Thank God! I had decided not to cry to avoid myself crying like crazy. As a family, we have a unique way of expressing our affection, not excessive and not less, but it definitely feels very deeply. Not seen, but felt inside, and I thought it was cool.

I returned to live with my spiritual parents just a few months before I left. They had no blood relationship with me, but they are like my own parents even more.

On the day of my departure, all looked normal, just like an ordinary day, everything just went naturally. My dad was sitting on the living room in the morning when I said “goodbye”, and he replied back with, “Be careful”.

There were no farewell words, no last words, just nothing. I felt more touching inside when he did not want to see me leaving so he kept looking into the book in his hands. Just looked at him, I could feel what he felt.

I wanted to cry so badly, but he just said…”We will meet again, do not worry” And yes! That sentence was strong enough to encourage me and became the best farewell words I have ever heard.

We remain as a family wherever we are, even though the ocean separate us, we are still family.

There is a saying, “Bonding doesn’t only happen when we’re together. It also happens when we are apart. For that we realize that despite the absence, the closeness is still there. The closeness has nothing to do with distance.”

Family! There is no words could describe it. Words would make its meaning becomes excessive and exaggerated impression, and that’s too much. However, you have to show it in action. We do not feel it because we say it. We feel it through the actions, from deep within our heart. When sense creates it, it remains forever.

Sometimes you have to be apart from people you love, but that does not make you love them any less. Sometimes you will love them more.


I am a language trainer based in Jakarta, Indonesia. I love traveling, like a lot. I enjoy walking around, language immersion in different places, have a cup of coffee at some unfamiliar coffee shop, embrace the history or art in many different museums. I love coming across people and blending with new culture. I like having conversations with new people, blogging the stories and inspire people.

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