A Random Musings About The Well

Where do you go when you find yourself in a dark place? When life gets too much and the walls feel like they’re crowding in on you, what do you reach for to find relief?

We all ache. Life is like that! It leaves us with holes in our souls. And we all reach. We reach for things soothe us. To comfort us. To make us feel better, or perhaps just to feel numb (the absence of pain).


Perhaps you reach for the comfort of a lover, the tonic of a drink, or the thrill of the forbidden. There is no greater temptation than to give in to the comfort of pleasure when encountering some form of pain.

When we ache we reach, but when we reach it aches — so we reach again. Giving in to the temptation of pleasure when confronted with pain creates a neural wiring in the brain. Reaching becomes habitual. At the hint of pain, we reach for temporary pleasure that not only leave us unfulfilled, but also are destructive for our life and toxic for our soul.

There were times when I ached and spent times of my life, reaching out for something. Every time I’m talking to someone “I’ve done those things” or “When I was in…” made me realize that “ah.. I have passed a lot of things” but I was still reaching for something to fill the void. I realized I might spend my life on the same roundabout; reaching but never grasping… Never finding the kind of medicine that would heal the holes in my soul.

There are two stories that involved a thing called a well, the donkey in the well and the princess and the frog. I don’t really love those stories, but these days I read those stories so much that I can tell the story without even reading the book, then memorized those stories unexpectedly.

I often think about the lives of the main characters in those stories and how everything changed for them all because of the discovery of a well

In the donkey’s situation, the well brought him to the freedom that the donkey had been waiting for. The same thing goes for the princess in the princess and the frog, because the well found her future husband.

The only difference from those stories are the circumstances that they had when they were in or by the well. The donkey was very disappointed, however the princess was in a very happy state.

Talking about the well, do you know what is inside it? Most water is the content of the wall. Long before we knew how to save the water, people used to take water directly from the well (I think some places in the world still use this method). As we know, water is the most important thing that we need to survive. Is there anyone who doesn’t need water to live? Some people can endure not taking a bath, but to not drink water, I don’t think so.

When you get thirsty or just feel that you need something to quench your thirst then get water is the solution. When the weather is hot, extremely hot or just hot, taking a shower, which needs water would be a good idea. So have you ever thought, “what if there is no more water in the world?” I have no idea what will happen. When most travelers, they’re looking for a beach instead of other places, surfers will pay a lot just to feel the different beaches, and again there is water there.


Back to “the well” thing, have you even once discovered about your well? The place that you could find something that makes you calm, warm or even safe. The well that provides you “the water” no matter what kind of water it is but for sure, the water would wipe away every tiredness, loneliness or even boredom. “The water” that would make everything right again.

When you ache, go to the well.

When your life spins out of control, go to the well.

The moment you’re stressed, anxious, depressed, grief-stricken or lonely, go to the well.

So the next time you ache, instead of reaching for the same old hollow pleasures and dysfunctional methods of coping, go to the well.


I am a language trainer based in Jakarta, Indonesia. I love traveling, like a lot. I enjoy walking around, language immersion in different places, have a cup of coffee at some unfamiliar coffee shop, embrace the history or art in many different museums. I love coming across people and blending with new culture. I like having conversations with new people, blogging the stories and inspire people.

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